We all have experienced situations which hurt & disappoint us, and been wounded by people who fall short of our expectations. We have all felt discouraged at times by our own mistakes & failures, and often carry past hurts which periodically still swamp us. This is life – the result of living in a fallen world.
Unfortunately our reactions to the stuff of life often result self-pity. How easy it is, at those times, to tell our story to others to elicit their outrage or sympathy. And so this unchecked self-pity leads to a perception of the self as a victim, which in turn negatively feeds our sense of identity, leading to depression or even despair. Self-pity is the thief of hope.
To be free we have to lay down our ‘right’ to a pity-party. This is not always easy.
STEPS TO FREEDOM
I appreciate there are those who have suffered grievous injury and trauma, & need help from an experienced Spirit-filled counsellor. If that is you, please seek help: Bethel Sozo UK is a good place to start: http://www.bethelsozo.org.uk/ . (‘Sozo’ is the Greek word often translated ‘salvation’, which includes mental, emotional & spiritual healing.)
2.) We then need to ask the Lord to release His healing power into the situation, and to heal our wounds. Take time to listen to Him & ask Him what He thinks about it all. (If you’re not sure how to do this, watch the video in the last post but one.)
3.) Choose to believe that ‘in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose’ [Romans 8:28]. Start to thank Him for working this particular situation for your good.
We can live permanently in reaction or we can be people who take action, people who refuse to feel sorry for themselves, who refuse a victim mentality, and refuse to look for sympathy or outrage in others. People who resolve to live free.