3. CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES
There are two key responses to this kind of ongoing relationship stress:
1. MAINTAIN PEACE
Not only are we to be peace-keepers, we are also to be peace-releasers [Matthew 10:13]. We are to influence the atmosphere around us; but we can only release peace over a situation to the extent we are living in it. Cultivate peace in the heart through trusting the Lord (see last post), then release it over the relationships in your life.
However, there are also times when the way of peace means withdrawing from a situation. Walking away is often the way of wisdom.*
2. CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES
- Is this situation one that needs addressing right now? Is it your battle?
- What will the cost be to you and the people in your life?
- Are there any long-term implications?
- What outcomes are you hoping for? Is there a possible win/win solution?
*NB if you are in an abusive relationship, please seek help and safety at the earliest opportunity.
AND FINALLY, SOME VERSES TO CHEW ON...
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."
Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him,
so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
For he Himself is our peace, who has made the two groups one
and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility,
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts
and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy;
without holiness no one will see the Lord.
Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.
Mercy, peace and love be yours in abundance.
[Jude 1:2 ]